Girl Night Out
Since many of my friends and family live in different time zones, we have what we call phone dates. We usually e-mail or text to see when the other is available for a long conversation.
During a phone date with one of my cousins, also single, she shared with me an experience which I thought was truly inspiring, hence, I want to share that story with you.
So many of us spend quite a bit of time at home, cleaning, organizing, cooking, paying bills, sometimes it’s nice to get away from the routine, getting out and enjoying a different scene. Not always do we want gather the friends, sometimes you may just want to go. No schedule just put your shoes on, a little lip gloss and head out the door.
My cousin said she felt like going out, so off she went to a local watering hole to catch a football game on a large screen t.v., to hang out and relax. BY HERSELF!
She sat at the bar, ordered her cocktail of choice, made eye contact with a group of guys around her age, and settled in. Next to her at the bar was an older gentleman, with whom she had quite a long conversation with, so long that she never actually got to talk with the younger guys, but that was ok – she did not go out with any expectations and she was happy to lend her ear to an elder. She told me she felt if this were her dad or Uncle, she would want someone to pay attention to them instead of ‘chasing boys’. So she stayed put.
My cousins story inspired me, as I’ve never taken myself out before. I was impressed with her courage and self-confidence. I wanted to experience this for myself. Albeit, the thought of going out alone made me feel a little uncomfortable, so I called a girlfriend of mine, also single, who lives an hour away from me, but due to our schedules, we rarely get to see each other. I shared the story of my cousin being so brave as she was, taking herself out.
My girlfriend and I agreed we should do this sometime! She and I made a plan.We decided we would take ourselves out … she would go to a local bar by herself and on the same night and at the same time, I’d go to a place in my neighborhood which I felt comfortable alone.
We did cheat a little by texting each other as we sat at the bar, we described the people around us, said whether we talked with anyone, was the bartender cute, etc. We didn’t stay long, but it was a step we both felt in a direction we’d never been before.
It was such a wonderful experience; I could hardly wait for the next phone date with my cousin to let her know how much she inspired me. We still laugh and talk about our Girl Night Out.
Today, after having experienced this freedom, I take myself out often. I feel comfort in going out for sushi. I enjoy going back to the local bar in which this story began. I take a seat at my local coffee shop for breakfast; the possibilities are endless to what I’ll do now, alone.
Maybe after a day of shopping at the mall, where there is a restaurant attached, you’ll feel like setting down your shopping bags and taking a break, having an appetizer, relaxing, by yourself. Try it, you may feel liberated and proud of yourself, taking baby steps out of your comfort zone.
C. Lee Miller, author, blogger and poet. To share comments, questions or suggestions, go to: www.fromsingletosingleagain.com